I have no doubt that my husband loves me but I know that it frustrates him when I try to explain that he will never be able to understand what I’m experiencing. After a great talk today I think I may have come up with a way that can help him at least wrap his brain around it. I thought I would share it with you all too.
Imagine the worst case of Mono that lasts for 3 months, leaving you unable to lift your head off of the bed or take care of your basic personal hygiene unassisted. Now add in excruciating joint pain, migraines, and constant nausea. On top of that your cognition is effected: you have lost your short term memory and your working memory is hampered (you can no longer manage complex reasoning and are unable to find the word your are looking for). You may or may not be able to read and write. Any allergic reaction sends you into a tail spin (because it makes sense that an immune response would trigger an autoimmune reaction) so you live in constant fear of mold/hay fever/etc. You may or may not suffer from chronic insomnia or you might sleep 23 hours a day (and don’t you dare say that you would love to sleep 23 hours a day!! That is arguably the cruelest thing you could say to someone with a chronic condition). Your life is stolen from you while you are in the prime of your life, leaving you broken and despondent. Many sink into deep depression. Your friends and family abandon you because you are no longer “fun to be around.” There are many other symptoms to add in but this gives you an idea…
Now multiply this by years.
Now you may have an inkling of an idea of what we go through and why we get upset when you say, “oh yeah. I get tired too.”
I hope this helps give a better picture of what it feels like to be trapped in the body of someone with Chronic Lyme. Was this helpful? Did I leave anything out? Tell me in the comments below.